What It Feels Like to Adjust the Rear View Mirror of Looking at Life

A slight pivot in the way you see the situation can make you feel lighter in the mind and joyous from the heart.

Try this for instance: Instead of feeling used, start feeling that you're useful! Then all complaints vanish.

How many such countless instances happened when you were in trouble and help came from some source or the other, thank the universe for it.

And when help didn't arrive, what happened? You either gained an experience and grew from it, or just got a lesson for lifetime.

It is so easy to start blaming someone that they used you, as if the entire event happened without your participation or consent. That is where our tiny little brain explodes itself with the thoughts of self pity, victimisation of oneself etc; dragging oneself down to the depths of such hollow thoughts that it not only drains out all the energy and optimism from you, but also forms a negative self image after a point and even depression to some extent.

At some point in life, when life gives us challenges one after the other, it is easy to slip into depression and anxiety. Do not run away from it. Embrace it for only then will you be able to work on it and make yourself normal.

When things get difficult, cry about it, as much as you can. Cry till your throat aches, eyes burn and body heats up to boiling temperature. There's nothing better than venting out the sorrow for all it needs is a way to go out from you.

Sorrow doesn't want to stay in you either, just as you don't want to stay in sorrow.

But to drown in sorrow is like rotting away in one's own body, then all that'll be left will be ruins of your useless existence that you wasted without being of any help to anyone.

Start taking things as gift from the universe. Bad things are gift in disguise to make you grow while the good things are mere rewards for having crossed a level of challenge. Just as it happens in video games.

A slight pivot is all that you need to hold yourself from rotting into ruins.

No, I've not yet learnt it not am I a pro at it. I fall, I cry and I take my time to accept my sorrow. I embrace my pain and then I work on it. I take my own time. But when I'm done with that level of challenge, I am very certain that nature is ready to give me the next gift, or probably a better challenge.

And as I conclude this one I would like to quote something that I learnt from a great man 

"Why spend a lifetime in learning how to live? Why not spend the lifetime to live?"